Hello, hello, and welcome to the podcast shine bright like a diamond podcast with Angela Vassallo. So happy to have you here and tuning in. Thank you so much. And also thank you to all the great feedback and response we've had from our last podcast. We've just launched it. And it's been so exciting, and the feedback has been awesome. So thank you so much for your support. We're only just getting started. I have some incredible speakers and interviews lined up for the year that I just know you're gonna love, and you're just gonna get so much out of it.
So welcome. If this is your first time to shine bright like a diamond podcast, it's fabulous to have you here. I'm your host. My name is Angela Vassallo. And today, I'd love to talk about something that is dear to my heart. And it's all about keeping your head in the clouds and your feet on the ground.
I started out many, many years ago, as an entrepreneur, I've been in business. And I've also been a student of personal development for over 30 years, I've spoken in depth about that. However, I used to be somebody that people would consider, she had her head in the clouds, she was always dreaming of these, you know, these big ideas, she had massive dreams, she wanted to go far. And a lot of people really didn't relate to me a lot of my friends were in jobs, good, secure jobs. And being an entrepreneur and having my own business. You know, people didn't understand that, and saw that, as I guess, you know, sort of pie in the sky, not really living in reality. It was all a bit far fetched the goals and the dreams that I was setting and the businesses that I was, you know, visualizing and dreaming about, you know, I decided that I really wanted to build these.
However, when I talk about having your head in the clouds, I guess many, many years ago, when I actually met my husband, 20 something years ago, I walked straight into a blended family, he had children, his ex wife and had been married before. And I remember thinking that I had rose colored glasses on because looking back, you know, in the beginning, I always thought everything's gonna be perfect, everybody would love me, everything's gonna be fine. And you don't realize that all these other as influences that affect your relationship. And, you know, business relationships, family dynamics, friendships that used to be it was just, you know, a lot.
And, you know, I think that I was somebody that had those rose colored glasses, and my husband used to say that yours weren't the average rose colored colored glasses, yours were like those big massive clown rose colored glasses. And I have to admit, I was probably like that I did see the glass half full still do. However, I'm a lot more. I live a lot more in reality now. And you know, I understand a lot more. And I'm not as naive, I guess, one of the things I've learned over the years, is to still keep your head in the clouds.
However, it is so important to keep your feet on the ground. And that's what I want to talk on today. Because I'm all for people believing that they can achieve great things. However, there must be a plan of action to achieve that. And you must be you know, in in motion and figuring out ways, holding yourself in the position. So when these opportunities do come up, you're ready. And so I want to talk a little bit about that today. And one of the things I always want to talk about is looking at things when we talk about the glass half full.
Is it a problem? Or is it an opportunity and part of being a positive person and seeing things I like I'm results orientated. So if there's a problem, I have a tendency to try to figure out very quickly, how can we solve that? That's also being an entrepreneur that's being a leader? That's owning businesses, when you own businesses, everything falls on your shoulders, and you have to solve problems. Day in, day out. I have said before, I feel like I am a professional problem solver. I have been that for many years. But is it a problem? Or is it an opportunity? And that's one thing I want you to think about the next time a big problem, you know, shows up in your life. Look at it, like, is this here to serve me? What can I learn from this? Can I find an opportunity out of this to be able to move forward? And think about it like this? Is it a setback? Or is it a reset? So things in life can happen and we can look at them in a negative way and think to ourselves, you know, this is a step back.
I've taken one step forward, and 10 steps back. Sometimes you need to take those steps back to reset. So then you can move forward again. And sometimes it might not be the right path that you're going down. And that way you're being moved into a different direction. So I really encourage people, especially when you're starting out in a new business, or new Korea, or whatever you're doing, if there's a problem there, if it's something that you can't solve, because the first thing is to start to work out how I can solve this problem, or is this problem, an opportunity, an opportunity for change and opportunity to look at something differently, an opportunity to resolve this issue to move forward? And also think to yourself, is this a setback? Or is it a reset?
I also want to mention, one thing I heard recently was, Don't do your best in life, do what's required. And I had to go think about that. And I thought this is really profound, because most people will say, and go through their lives and actually have this mindset, I'll do my best, or I've done my best. And usually what that means is, there's a limitation there to what their best is, but it's a perceived idea to what they think their best is. However, what if you change that and said this, I do what's required. So what's essential, and what's required, because usually, what is required, and what is essential, does get done.
So if you're moving forward on in your business, and you're thinking about all the things that you've got to do in a day, or a week, or a month, or even, you know, 90 days, even into a year, don't always look at it, like I'll do my best start to think about it like this is something that I'm going to do that is required. And it is essential, because when you do say, I'll do my best, it's almost like a cop out. Like it's a plan, you've given yourself a Plan B, you've saying I'm going as far as I can go, I may not get this done. I may not get this done. However, that's my best. Well, is it really? Or is that just a mindset that you've gotten? Is that just a block that you've got? So we need to think about that as well? Because when I did hear that, I thought, Wow, so many of us may include? I've done my best. Okay, well, what is your best? Or could you have gone a little bit further, if you had done what was required.
And I really want you guys to think about the fact that you hold the pen in your hand to write your story, you really do. And you can, you can become the main character in your life at any time. You can edit a Chapter, you can change it any way you want. You may have started out the book like this. But now this is where it's moving. And this is where it's going to end. And you think to yourself, am I the lead person in my life? Am I the star of the show? Or am I supporting act, if you're a supporting act, you want to try to figure out how you can be the star of your own show. Because that is where the self esteem comes in. That is where taking control of your own life comes in. And not allowing somebody else to take that pen and write your story. It's up to you to write your own story. And the way you do that is by making changes, setting clear goals, focusing on a vision, understanding where you want to go, getting, you know, great mentors and coaches around you. And starting to move in the direction of your dreams, not into someone else's dreams. Because they it's always this is great saying that if you don't focus on something, you'll fall for everything.
So be careful of what you're falling for. Are you falling for someone else's goals and dreams? Or are you starring in your own show? There's a really great metaphor and quote that Brene Brown talks about in her book. And you may have heard it before. And it's all about being in the arena and showing up. Are you showing up in your lives? Or are you sitting in in in the seats are you up in the stages? Because if you're up in the seats, and you're not in the arena, that is where all the action is happening. The people that take the cheap seats and they're not out there in the arena. They are the ones that are working for somebody else holding themselves back in life and judging everyone.
And Brene Brown says if you're not in the rent in the arena, getting your ass kicked, I am not interested in your opinion or your feedback. So when you do start to put yourself out there, whether it be on social media, whether it be In a new business, new career pivoting in some way, or pushing yourself out of your comfort zone in some area in your life, what will inevitably happen is that people will judge you, you'll hear comments like, what you doing? Who does she think she is? What you're doing now, these are all the comments you're gonna get.
However, the people that you should be listening to are the ones in the arena, the ones that are out there fighting, the ones that are getting their butts kicked on a daily basis, however, they're getting back up again. And they're taking the hits, they're learning from them. And they're stepping up again, taking a hit, learning from it, and you just keep going. They're the ones in the arena, but the ones in the cheap seats will always judge you.
So just remember that once people are pointing their finger at you, are they out here doing what I'm doing? Are they taking risks? Do they have the courage to do what I'm doing. And if they don't, don't worry about what they're saying, always worried about always take advice.
And listen to the people that have gone ahead of you. Because you can always guarantee the ones behind you will be telling you why you can't do something. And as Aristotle says, the one way to avoid any criticism in the world is to do nothing, say nothing and be nothing. And that's not what we do, especially on this podcast, because we want to shine bright like a diamond.
I've hoped I hope you've enjoyed today in this podcast. I really love you. I love the fact that you're here today and you're listening to this.
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Bye for now.
